The Santa Barbara House Fire

My Husband, the Tortillero

My husband Mike is a tortillero, which means he has spent his entire life in the tortilla business. For years, we owned a mid-size tortilla factory with over 150 employees. I served as the head of Human Resources — a part-time role that allowed me to balance work with our family’s needs. Because HR required wearing many hats, I also oversaw all Workers’ Compensation matters. Several times a year, I attended mandatory conferences to stay current with ever-changing laws.

Anaheim Convention Center Conference

The conference was an all-day event featuring executives from various insurance sectors speaking on workplace safety and injury prevention. I remember signing up for the sessions on litigation because that year we had dealt with two frivolous, related claims.

Our daughter was a junior in high school, living the life of a carefree teenager. During the lunch break, I called Sonja. There were no cell phones at the time, so I waited my turn at a pay phone.

Just an Ordinary Day for Sonja

Sonja answered the phone, but the conversation took so many turns that I had forgotten why I called. “Are you and Dad going to give me a summer job? If you are, I can only work part-time. I need a couple of days off during the week so I can go to the beach.” That was just one stop on her roller coaster of a conversation.

Sonja went on to talk about her winter formal dress. “When can we go shopping? I need shoes to match — and they have to be perfect. If we can’t find the right color, I guess we can buy white satin ones and have them dyed.” By this point, I was out of breath.

Then came the part I could not believe. “By the way, your son called. He said the house in Santa Barbara burned down.”

Now I was speechless.

“Wait — wait! Can you repeat that? What are you talking about?” I yelled.

Sonja repeated it: the house in Santa Barbara had burned down.

I could not breathe. I called Mike — and he could not breathe either.

Was Mikos all right? He and his roommate had been living in the house at the time. Mikos had already reached Mike, who was on his way to a meeting with Alpha Beta, a large grocery chain. After the meeting, Mike immediately called Mikos.

“Are you okay? Did anyone get hurt?”

Mikos was shaken but answered that both he and his roommate Rick were fine.

Mikos’ Story

Mikos was a junior at Westmont College. Rather than staying for chapel, he would head home between classes to cook breakfast. His roommate Rick had just broken up with his girlfriend and was feeling melancholy, so he lit a candle in his room and then jumped into the shower.

While Mikos was frying bacon, he noticed smoke drifting in from the backyard. Rick’s room was a converted garage. Mikos’ first thought was that Rick must be shaking out a floor rug. Then he remembered — Rick was in the shower.

Mikos went out through the kitchen door to investigate. As he approached Rick’s room, he realized it was on fire. He ran back inside to tell Rick. Another friend, James, happened to be visiting. Mikos shouted for James to call 911, then ran back outside to assess the fire.

James could not find the cordless phone — and did what he decided was best for himself. He grabbed his backpack and his skateboard, jumped out a bedroom window, and rode off into the sunset.

Meanwhile, Mikos was frantically searching for the phone. He found it buried in the couch, called 911, and ran back outside with a garden hose to fight the flames. Anyone who has lived in Santa Barbara knows the water pressure in that city leaves much to be desired. Seeing that the fire was beyond his control, Mikos ran back inside to try to salvage whatever he could before the firefighters arrived and quickly put out the blaze.

The fire chief questioned both Mikos and Rick — asking whether they had argued, or whether one of them had started dating the other’s girlfriend. They were both rattled enough to tell the truth. That is, until one of the firefighters emerged holding a sock. The young firefighter pulled Mikos aside and produced a stash of marijuana from inside it.

“Is this yours?” he asked.

“I’ve never seen that — no, it’s not mine,” Mikos replied nervously.

The firefighter looked at him and said, “Well then, we won’t be reporting this to the police.”

He carefully tucked the marijuana back into the sock and slipped it into his jacket. Just like that, he had helped himself to a free score — from two shaken, traumatized college kids.

Fire and Rain

Sonja was partly right — half of the house had been damaged. Mike arrived the following morning to meet with the insurance adjuster, and we were frustrated by what followed. The insurance company agreed to pay only for the portion of the roof that had been damaged and would replace windows on just half of the house. Since the kitchen and bathroom were still functioning, they considered the home livable.

Then came one of the greatest rainstorms in the history of Santa Barbara.

No plastic tarp could hold back the torrential rain from causing further damage to the already battered cottage. Mikos said that every night during the storm he had to climb onto the roof to re-staple the tarp over the gaping hole left by the fire. He was worried the ceiling would cave in — the roof of his room had swollen with water. He would call to complain, but there was nothing we could do. Mikos was finally growing up and, quite literally, worrying about the roof over his head.

Because the fire had occurred just days before the storm, we now had to file two separate insurance claims. It was an uphill battle, but we finally got everything resolved. From start to finish, it took six months to get the Santa Barbara house back in order.

Mikos and Rick quickly befriended the construction workers — a new kind of fraternity, with its own fringe benefits: fresh drinking buddies. Mikos claimed that once the work was complete, they threw the best party in the history of Westmont College. James was in attendance.

Our Santa Barbara home

Our Kids

This is why I could only work part-time: our kids were still keeping us on our toes. On the bright side, our daughter Sonja was always on the honor roll and is one of the most responsible adults I know. Perhaps we spoiled her, but in the end she has built a wonderful, productive life alongside her husband Russ and their two sons.

Looking back at Mikos’ journey, I will say that he required a few more prayers than Sonja did. I am happy to report that all of his life experiences have shaped him into a conscientious, grounded young man. He is a wonderful husband to Jenny and a devoted father of two.

This is why I could only work part-time: our kids were still driving us crazy. On the up side, I can honestly report that our daughter Sonja was always on the honor role and is one of the most responsible adults that I know. Perhaps we spoiled her but in the end she has learned to live a wonderful, productive life with her two sons and husband Russ. Looking back at Mikos’ life, I would say that I had to pray for him a little more than for Sonja. I’m happy to report that all his life experiences have caused him to become a conscientious young man. He is a great husband to Jenny and father of two.

Don’t Worry…Learn to Pray

We had the means to rescue Mikos and set him up in a hotel while the house was under construction, but we chose not to. When Sonja began working during college, we stepped back from most of her personal financial support as well. We made these decisions because we believed our children needed to learn to fend for themselves. This season also marked my entry into the world of effectual prayer and learning to trust God. I dove in and never came out.

Santa Barbara Cottage

We still own our little home in Santa Barbara, located a block and a half from Ledbetter Beach. It has been a solid investment over the years. We often talk about taking it over and turning it into a vacation home, but life keeps us too busy for that kind of commitment. In the meantime, a wonderful family of four has been caring for the home responsibly for over 18 years.

For that, I thank God.

 

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I was Scammed…Twice

Mike was traveling more than usual so he decided that we needed the Ring device. The Ring is a doorbell equipped with a camera. It rings when there is activity  within the eye of the camera. To me, the Ring is just another “big brother” device watching our every move. When we first set it up, it was over-sensitive and would go off with a slight breeze. The Ring also became a secret agent for Mike. I don’t usually order things online, but due to the lockdown I was forced to.  In the past I could just sneak in the packages without the local police knowing about it. Now nothing escapes Mike. During the pandemic I was shopping online because my favorite retailer was selling items for 70% off! So I purchased some merchandise; who wouldn’t at that price? The problem with pandemic shopping is you can’t hide anything!  I came across a retailer on Facebook called loveforjesus. They were closing  and all their wonderful Christian merchandise was on sale. Their product line was really appealing: shirts with the word faith written in the form of a cross,  jewelry with crosses looped through an infinity silver necklace, and bracelets.  How can you go wrong with the closeout price?

Order Placed

Look at their fake logo, but I really like the necklace
I still love this shirt

On March 20th, I placed an order totaling $41.67 and paid through PayPal. On March 22nd  I received a confirmation with an order number. The email stated that they were getting ready to ship the merchandise and would follow up with a tracking number. It also stated that due to the COVID-19, the shipping would be delayed by an additional seven days. This was the first red flag. On April 8th I received another email; this was to inform me that they were forced to switch shipping companies. “The new shipping company is charging more, but don’t worry, we will pay for that. For all the inconvenience, we would like to offer you 20% off the already reduced price.” This was red flag number two. I logged onto their website and did some Mother’s Day shopping. This time the total was $50.37 for Jesus t-shirts for my daughter Sonja, and daughter-in-law Jenny. I was so pleased with these purchases, and Mike was going to be so elated with all the money I saved.

Mother’s Day Debacle

Each time the Ring device would go off, I thought it was my order from loveforjesus. I started to get a little worried, so I ordered back-up Mother’s Day gifts for the girls from Nordstrom Rack. I emailed loveforjesus and my email came back with Mailer-Daemon (I always thought it read mailer demon). I was beyond outraged, and I had all the time in the world to fight. I sent another email and received this:

 

Charles (Customer Service)

Apr 29, 14:30 -05

Hello Lynda,

Thank you for your message.
One of your orders is in transit and the other is ready for shipping.
You will receive a confirmation as well as the tracking number as soon as it has shipped out.

Kind regards,
Charles

Ciriza7

Apr 28, 23:33 -05

I find that your company’s lack of professionalism is what troubles me the most. Where are my two orders? Even if they were coming from a slow boat in China, the merchandise should have already arrived. Please refund my money.

Lynda Ciriza
Sonja, me and Jenny on Mother’s Day

I got the bank involved, and the money was quickly reimbursed into my account. The bank will deal with these cyber heisters. Nothing angers me more than using the name of God in oder to gain revenue.

Sonja

I was to embarrassed to share this with Mike but if Sonja got wind of this, she would take it to high heaven. I only wish I had not mentioned that I had ordered some Jesus t-shirts for her. I knew she would remember because she said, “Oh, no thank you.” So I had to tell her that the Jesus t-shirts never came in. Then came the interrogation, “Where did you order them from?” My reply was short and sweet, “What does it matter, they never came in.” PLEASE DO NOT TELL ME YOU ORDER OFF OF FACEBOOK! she sounded off. “So what if I did! Did you pay for it?”I answered.  Mom, you are never supposed to order from accounts on Facebook! Did you check their reviews?” “What do you mean?” My next thought was, why would I need to check the reviews on a company that was named after our Lord “loveforjesus“? Sure enough, Sonja was right. When we checked the reviews they were mostly complaints, and many customers referred to them as scammers.

Mike

Mike manages all of our finances, and though I have my own credit cards, he still pays them.  I had to tell him about the fake Jesus company. “Did you give them your credit number?” He asked. Even though I’m still writing checks, this was an electronic exchange payment. “Yes, how else do you pay?” I answered. Then came the lecture. “So now they have all of our information?” Mike was upset, I wanted to tell him that at least they don’t have our first born, but I dared not. After almost 49 years of marriage you’d think he cut me some slack.  It never matters because whatever it is that I’ve gotten myself  into, Mike will fix it. This is a constant.

Mikos

My family never lets me get away with anything. After Sonja made this a topic of conversation on Mother’s Day. Mikos added, “Mom, are you still hiding packages from Dad? Will that ever change?” “I guess not!” I replied, with a sarcastic look on my face.

PayPal and Facebook

Are not these two conglomerates reputable? PayPal was the first to wash their hands of this, stating that since the bank, and not me, came to them, it was my problem. Even if I had attempted to contact them, I’d still be placed on hold. Facebook does have a headquarters phone number, but they handle themselves via cold media: no contact, no bond, and no human voice. In the meantime the merchandise never arrived.  I still reserve a little ray of hope that loveforjesus will come through, but I’m not holding my breath.

loveforjesus broke the second commandment:

Exodus 20:7 New American Bible (Revised Edition) (NABRE)

 

You shall not invoke the name of the Lord, your God, in vain. For the Lord will not leave unpunished anyone who invokes his name in vain.

In other words, loveforjesus, you’re going to pay for this scam. And the best part about this is that God is going to deal with you.
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First and Last Camping Trip

I guess I did laundry in the nearby stream

I’m resurrecting an old story that was introduced three years ago.

Isaiah 43:1-2 New American Bible (Revised Edition) (NABRE)

But now, thus says the Lord,
    who created you, Jacob, and formed you, Israel:
Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;
    I have called you by name: you are mine.
When you pass through waters, I will be with you;
    through rivers, you shall not be swept away.
When you walk through fire, you shall not be burned,
    nor will flames consume you.

Be Prepared

When we planned our first camping trip we purchased a four-man tent, along with all new cooking utensils and sleeping bags. We were excited to drive up to Twin Lakes with our kids. It was summer the of 1978, when Mikos was five years old and Sonja was three. We must have used one of our delivery vans  because I distinctly remember it having one side- sliding door and seating for only the driver and one passenger. Our children traveled safely on a bed of sleeping bags; there were no laws against that at the time. We drove for hours until we reached the campsite. Two forest rangers greeted us at the entrance to the campsite. We paid the camping fee and were handed a flyer with a composite drawing of a rapist in the vicinity. I studied the face of the criminal, then dropped the flyer on the floor of the van. Great fear gripped my heart because of that creepy drawing.

Our brave captain

Camping Snobs

I told Mike that we were not there to make friends and I wanted to be far from any crowds, so Mike did just that. We could see campers from a great  distance; so far this was a perfect plan. Our site was a long distance from the public restrooms, but I was fine with that as well. When night fell it got dark; this type of darkness was black, scary dark, so dark  that you could not see your hand in front of your face. We had our flashlights and got into our sleeping bags for the night. I was scared of the dark and the rapist’s face on the flyer was still fresh in my mind. I tried to sleep but I could not. I felt like there were bugs in my newly permed hair. It was uncomfortably cold – so cold that I had to put on another layer of clothes. After tossing and turning, I finally fell asleep. Then I heard Mike’s voice, “Are you awake, Lynda? Are you awake?” Now I was wide awake. Mike told me that he was going to move the van in front of the entrance of the tent so that if anything happened, I was to grab the kids and lock them in the van. What did Mike know that he wasn’t telling me? I asked Mike why, and he told me to be quiet and try to get some sleep. Well, I was asleep until he decided to add more fear to this living nightmare. Every noise – the wind rustling, and the strange forest sounds – was amplified, making my life a living hell. By morning I was just happy to be among the living. It turned out that Mike overheard some campers talking about a bear sighting. Mike thought that we were going to be attacked. He had a medium-sized knife to fight off the beast. I knew this unfortunate aggression was real, and that the bear would be the victor. I’ve seen the movies, and I wanted to go home!

Mikos, me (the dead perm), and Sonja

I had just had my hair permed and, back in the day, you had to wait three days before washing your hair or the curl would come out. It was day two and I had to wash my hair; because of the imaginary bugs and dust, I could not wait for the third day. When Sonja and I walked to the showers, I had no idea that they  were communal. You had to pay for the water usage: a quarter every five minutes. So in the middle of washing my perm, the water shut off! Could this get any worse? I wrapped Sonja in a towel and sent her out for more quarters. “You tell your dad that he better have at least five quarters!”  As the result of this disobedience to my hairdresser, the perm went flat and I looked like one of the Beatles.

Family Fishing

Our provisions were scarce because Mike decided that we were going to live off the land. So in order for us to eat dinner we had to catch our own fish. We rented an outboard motorboat and traveled for half an hour to what seemed to be the perfect spot; however, I had to go to the bathroom, so poor Mike  had to turn around and dock the boat while I used the facilities. We finally reached a good fishing spot and cast our lines. At first we waited and got nothing, then Mike got a bite. Mike caught a good-sized fish which would have been our dinner, but when he unhooked the fish, it was flopping all over the boat.  The kids started crying. It was too much for these city slicker kids to see the suffering and torment of the poor creature. “Please Daddy, please put it back! Put it back!” they cried. Mike set the fish free, and we had eggs for dinner. Thank God, because the last thing I wanted to see was fish guts.

Kum Ba Ya

I tried to keep the inside of the tent tidy but the dust and insects won, beating me into near insanity. Remember that I requested to be away from the maddening crowd; well, that didn’t work out so well either. Each night, while I prayed for morning to come, we could hear singing and laughing . Now I longed for camping friends, but it was too late in the game for that. I never experienced campfire talk first hand,  scary ghost stories (I was living it), nor the singing of Kum Ba Ya. From a distance we could hear the other campers, and by the scent from their camp fires, they were probably eating s’mores.  We roasted some hot dogs and went to bed. After a while the laughter and singing annoyed me. I wanted to sing and eat s’mores, but we were camping snobs.

Take Me Home

For years I could not understand how people enjoyed camping. The stillness of the night was an unsettling reminder of how vulnerable we were. The ferocious bears, and the eerie sounds of  birds was like being in a haunted forest. The best part of this trip was packing up and staying at a hotel the last night.

Looking back at this vacation I wonder how we could have allowed our kids to ride in the back on sleeping bags. Mike and I were slowly coming out of our Hippie days, so  things like that did not matter.  Nowadays any trips with children are planned to make sure that they are entertained the entire trip. I can not back out of my driveway without the secure sound of the clicking of my grandchildren’s seatbelts. It may be safer now, but even though it was unsafe the old way, it was a lot more adventuresome.

I thank God that nothing happened to us and that we lived to tell about one of the two camping trips we experienced. But I will never forget this trip, and no one in the world could ever convince me that camping is a vacation. The spirit of fear has finally left me, but I’m still not ready for another camping trip.

 

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