A Baby Boomer’s Flashback

My hippie days
The 70’s party

I am a Baby Boomer.

Boomer’s Rule

Do you know that Baby Boomers represent the largest population in the United States? We were born directly after World War II; our birth was a celebration, not a planned pregnancy. Our parents did not use birth control.  Being born to a family of seven like mine was common. My mother had nine siblings, and each of them had more than four children. We populated the world.

eLearn Industry

According to eLearn Industry, these are the characteristics of Baby Boomers:

  • Strong work ethic;
  • Self-assured, we are independent;
  • We like competition
  • We are goal oriented;
  • Resourceful;
  • Mentally focused;
  • Team oriented; and
  • Disciplined.

Lynda

For as long as I can remember, work was part of my life. We lived in Brawley, a farming town that grew all types of vegetables and fruits. My first job was picking tomatoes. So at the ripe age of 12 I understood that working brought many benefits. The wages were paid in cash, ranging from $12-$15 per day. I will never forget the great reward of purchasing a pair of white shorts and a turquoise top; nothing was more satisfying. We gave most of our earnings to our mother to help out with our daily needs.

In addition at the age of 15 I worked for a family-owned fast food company. The owner trusted me to run her business because I was honest. Sometimes we would run short of meat for the burritos, so I would add more juice or beans. Learning to become resourceful was part of my little job.

In college I continued to work at the fast food establishment but also had a job working in the Spanish language lab. I never had a car so I’d walk or take public transportation. This was the norm in my life, until our older sister Jo, who worked, purchased a vehicle. The two-seater convertible, that Jo purchased was the pride of our youth.

Mike

My husband Mike has been working since he was 12 years old. His family owned a tortilla factory, so Mike’s father would take him to collect cardboard boxes from liquor and grocery stores. These boxes were recycled and used for packing tortillas for delivery. Mike received five cents per cardboard box. He remembers going to work with his dad on a regular basis. When he turned 16 he was given the responsibility of a local route driver. Mike also took over the vacation routes of the company drivers. In addition Mike had a part-time job as a janitor at a convalescent hospital.

Mike was attending San Diego State when his father had a stroke. He came home to help run the factory and enrolled at Cal Poly Pomona to finish his education. Logistically Cal Poly was closer to home; however, when his father suffered a second stroke, Mike took over the tortilla factory and had to work full-time. So he transferred to the University of Riverside.

Our Union

By the age of twenty Mike had purchased a home. We met and shortly after this were married. Working in the front office of the factory was my new job. Checking in the drivers and taking phone orders were just a small part of what was required.

Miguel, Mike’s Dad

Mike had a special relationship with his father and, on many occasions, his father shared with him that he had changed his will. He told Mike that he made him the executor of the new will. Mike was too young to understand the ramifications of this conversation. So when his father passed away, his older sister from a previous marriage took over the business. She was the executrix of the original will. She did not waste any time in eliminating our positions. By trade she was a realtor and did not have any attachment to the company. She did not care how this would affect all the employees, including her brother. She was ruthless and quickly liquidated the company.

 

Me, Hazel and Mike

Boomers Bounce Back

What we have endured as a couple is living proof of how resilient Boomers are. Mike did not miss a beat. We packed up and moved to Santa Barbara to become part owners of a new tortilla factory. You can read about the venture in my other Blogs.

The 70’s Birthday Party

Our friend Hazel was celebrating her 70th birthday where we had to dress like we did in the seventies. Both Mike and I were borderline hippies, so this was a no brainer. I loved the freedom of this era: bellbottoms, leather vests with fringe, flowers in your hair. I did not have to go out looking for an outfit to wear because in my heart I’m still  a hippie. This was a wonderful gathering filled with love.

Free Love

This was a period of time that changed the world. When you developed the mentality of free love, it takes on a whole new meaning. Many of our acquaintances and co-workers in Santa Barbara were actual hippies. They lived a life of drugs and sex, so we watched their lives unravel before our eyes. This type of free love was self-serving and destructive. Thank the good Lord that He spared us from  this lifestyle.  As lost as I was during this time of my life, I never lost sight of God.

God’s Free Love

The love that God demonstrates for us is so fulfilling, nothing can compare to it! We will never fully understand God’s love because what He asks of us is so simple that we get lost trying to figure it out. As Christians we are to be living examples of love. This is a massive undertaking: what is required of us during these tumultuous times is to receive everyone in the love of God.

My Prayer

Dear Lord, as we Baby Boomers enter into our last chapter of life, give us godly wisdom to walk in Your shadow. Give us good health and guidance. And teach us to operate in Your perfect love.  Amen.

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Mikos and Issachar

Mikos in his dapper days
Issachar

Mike purchased a sporty two-door green Acura for me in 1990. This quickly became my favorite car. I never get attached to inanimate objects, this car was different because before, I was driving an atrocious turquoise van. We name all of our cars and the Acura Legend’s name was Issachar (is-a-car).

The Car Keys

Our 16 year-old son was invited to Colorado to visit some dear friends. On the day he was leaving he slept in. I yelled for him to get up, and  when I looked at his ticket I discover that his flight was scheduled to leave in five minutes. Despite the fact that we live 15  minutes from John Wayne Airport  (that is without traffic) we were going to be late. I made Mikos get up and get ready. We both needed a break from each other and I was not going to miss this opportunity. John Wayne Airport was much smaller then, and parking was right in front.  Mikos did not want to drag his suitcase just in case he missed the flight. When we got to the counter, we were informed that the flight had mechanical problems and  it had been delayed.  I gave him the keys to Issachar for him to get the luggage. Just then the announcement was made that the plane was ready for takeoff. I was feeling a little guilty because of the mechanical problem, so I went upstairs  to the balcony to see my son off. I could see that he was at a window seat and he was waving to me, but the wave seemed more and more  animated and then I saw my car keys in his hand. It took over three hours to get this problem resolved. I called the office and was told that Mike was on his way to L.A.  He had to be paged (remember those beepers?). Mike had to drive home and pick up the spare key and bring it to the airport.

The Helping Hand

Another incident with Issachar happened late September that same year. I had just gone grocery shopping, and as I pulled up, Mikos offered to help carry the bags in.  This was so out of character for my son because he never before offered any assistance.  Maybe he was changing or maturing. Nope! He was trying to impress his girlfriend, who was visiting that day. “Don’t worry Mom, I’ll put everything away too, ” he said.  A few hours had passed when I went into the kitchen and discovered that Mikos neglected to put the ice cream in the freezer! It was completely melted.

The Smell of Death

Days passed and Issachar and I were driving to and from work. That September we were experiencing a particularly hot Indian summer. Issachar (the car) started to develop a strange stench.  After about a week the smell became so caustic,  when I would get in the car I wanted to throw up. I searched thoroughly for any leftover food but found nothing. I put the air conditioner on full blast and drove to work. I knew it was serious when I came to a stop signal and people would look at me in disgust. I looked back, shrugged my  shoulders at them and said, “What?” At that point the smell was so putrid that I no longer smelled it. I had no idea that the smell was latching on to my clothing either. When I got to work one of the supervisors coughed a throw up sounding cough when I passed by. Waving his hand in front of his disgusted-looking face, he blurted out, “What is that horrible smell?” I had become immune to the sulfurous, foul air, apparently it had become part of my DNA! Nonetheless, I knew something was very wrong. I went into my office and did what every normal person does, lifting my arm smelling both armpits, but it all registered normal.

When I got home, Sonja was outside with her boyfriend. I opened the door and they both looked like they smelled death. I put my head down, raised my hands in question and told them that I did not know what was wrong but that everyone was telling me about the polluted smell.  “Is there something dead in your car?” Sonja asked.  It never dawned on me to look in the trunk and this frightened me because whatever it was, it has definitely gone to meet its Maker. We brought in the trash containers from the back yard to facilitate the transfer of the dead foreign matter.  Sonja’s boyfriend opened the trunk and there it was, the rotting raw chicken that Mikos failed to bring into the house the day he was trying to impress his girlfriend.  My eyes cried for what my nose was enduring. The three of us choked and gasped for any clean air to free us of this foul-smelling fowl.

Mike To The Rescue 

It took weeks before  everything got back to normal. This task fell on none other than Mike. After several car washes, air fresheners, and leaving the windows down he finally decided that it was inhabitable and safe for driving. Anyone that knows my husband Mike understands how meticulous  he is about a clean car.

Years passed  and Mikos was leaving for college in Santa Barbara, we handed down Issachar to him.  As my son was leaving, a Bible Scripture came to me from:

Matthew 7:6 “Do not give that which is holy to dogs, nor cast your pearls before swine.” I knew that was it over for Issachar and it was going to be downhill from there; the car would never be kept clean as Mike kept it.

Dear Lord, Thank You for all that You have done in guiding our son Mikos. May we as parents understand the importance of teaching our children about You. Parents need You more than ever to raise healthy, productive, God-fearing children. May Your heavenly light shine upon them and give them guidance.  Amen.

 

 

 

 

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Graciously Aging

How does God help us as we get older?

Fourth Quarter

When you are well into your seventies you realize that this could be the fourth quarter of your life. I look to saints to help me with all the various passes the world has thrown my way. Every year something goes awry. This year, much to my surprise, the same sandals that I wore last year now hurt to walk in. My eyes are suffering from extreme dryness. This condition has forced my new routine: wearing a heated eye mask and taking fish oil and eye drops to sooth the irritation. But that’s not what I really want to write about. I want to share the Gospel and how it has helped me every step of my life.

Saint Faustina

If you ever need direction on trusting God, Saint Faustina is your go-to saint. On February 22, 1931, our Savior Jesus appeared to this simple Polish nun. He revealed to her the depth of His mercy and wanted her to bring the message of Divine Mercy to the world. This message is so profound that we Catholics have incorporated it into our daily rosary. God never complicates or distorts messages; He simply wanted for us to trust in Him.

When I visited Krakow, Poland, I purchased the most beautiful image of the Divine Mercy. As much as I wanted to keep the special image, I had to discard it because the same weevils that attacked my antique dining set also started eating the wood frame of the Divine Mercy image. When I had the furniture treated for the pests, I did not realize that these evil weevils had wings, and had infested the wooden frame of the Divine Mercy image as well.

The Diary of Saint Faustina has given me so much spiritual insight. It is truly an act of love from our Lord.

Jesus, I Trust In You  

With all the challenges of this world, we have no other alternative than to turn to the Lord. Through all my trials I have never faltered in trusting the Lord. Despite the fact that at times I feel abandoned, I always revert to how He has been with me every step of my life. He speaks to me in visions, dreams, His Holy Word, and through others.

The Lotto

The Lord spoke to me the other day about trusting Him for everything.  Did I listen? Not really. Typically when the Lotto reaches over 300 million, I get all excited and fall into the delusions of the world. “Lord, I don’t want the big prize, but I do want to get second. “I promise the Lord of all the help I will give others: donations to different ministries and to my parish as well.”  So what happened to me the last time I made a lottery ticket purchase? I lost my ATM card; that was my last purchase. What an inconvenience to have to go back to your online banking account and reorder a new card! Furthermore, I never win and when I do it’s only two dollars. I was sick to my stomach to find out that the Mega Millions Lattery is now costing five dollars! What a waste of money!

Seventy-three Years Young

Regardless of how old you are, your mind will tell you how you feel. There is something to be said about people who attend regular church services; we remain under the covering of God. Did you know that when you are involved in volunteering to help others, it adds years to your life? When you are giving of yourself, especially by volunteering at church, it gives you a sense of  purpose. God is trusting you to guide others to Him. Imagine all the spiritual and psychological  harm that Ivy League colleges have done by indoctrinating their youth with an agnostic mindset. With all my heart, I never will mislead any of my students because, simply put, I pray for God to prepare my heart and mind and to use me to touch these students.

So at my age I will continue to offer my services in teaching and guiding young people to the Lord. I will do this as long as God permits.

Japheth

Years ago I taught Christian Release Time, a Protestant Bible study program for fourth- and fifth- grade students attending public schools. I will never forget one of my students whose name is Japheth. When he told me his name, “I answered, Ja what?” I had never in my life heard of this unusual name. It took me more than half of the year to get the pronunciation of his name correct. Needless to say, this young man had a special place in my heart.

Japheth and Shem holding up the cloak with their back to Noah,  Artist James Tissot, Jewish Museum, Manhattan, New York

 

A few years ago Japheth recognized me at Mass. It was a beautiful reunion. His mother, Rosalva, and I are Eucharistic ministers at the 8:30 a.m. Mass. We have a deep spiritual connection. I knew that Japheth had recently become engaged, and I shared in this joyous occasion. Rosalva is a traditional Catholic woman who covers her hair with a beautiful lace veil. Japheth’s family usually sits directly behind Mike and me at Mass. This Sunday Rosalva tapped me on the shoulder and said,  “Japheth is getting married on August 16th, and we would love to invite you to come to the service.”  Of course I will be there, and I have already started praying for their nuptials. I know it’s going to be a beautiful wedding.

It took me a while to realize that Japheth was one of Noah’s sones He is mentioned int the Bible three times (Genesis 6:9-10; 6:32; and 9:18). Japheth and his three brothers played a role in the story of the Great Flood and its aftermath. Japheth, along with his brothers Shem and Ham and the wives are ancestors of all all humanity.

After the flood Noah becomes drunk and Japheth, along with his brother Shem, act with respectful discretion by covering their father’s nakedness without looking upon him. Because Japheth displayed such reverence for his father, Noah, blessed him and prophesied that God would enlarge his descendants. The name Japheth is believed to mean “may he extend,” reflecting the prophecy of his descendants spreading out. You can read the full narrative in (Genesis 9:20-27).

Now I understand why Rosalva named her son Japheth.

 

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