My Dog Life

Man’s Best Friend

Dogs

Dogs appear in the Bible more than 40 times — yet most of those mentions are far from flattering. Scripture often portrays them as scavengers, symbols of the lowly, or terms of contempt. But this story is different. This is about the dogs in my life.

Childhood Dogs

Blackie was the first. A short, black Heinz 57 of a dog — the kind that defies any single breed — he holds the earliest place in memory among childhood pets. His life ended under the wheels of a gas repairman’s vehicle, and his send-off was as solemn as children could manage: an old shoe box for a coffin, a backyard funeral, and a shallow grave.

Rest in peace, Blackie did not. Curiosity, that relentless companion of childhood, kept drawing us back. Sticks in hand, we morbidly checked on him — part grief, part fascination — proof that even in loss, kids can’t help but poke at the mystery of it.

Albino

Albino — Bino for short — was an all-white mutt and everything a neighborhood dog should be. With fences on two sides but none in front, Bino ran the streets freely and lived well doing it. Life was good, until it wasn’t.

Bino’s undoing was love. He had fallen for a designer dog down the street and was in the middle of consummating that union when the trouble started. This was no shotgun wedding — the shotgun came out with one purpose, and it wasn’t matrimony. A redneck woman, with a shot gun in hand, stepped outside and shot him right in front of the neighborhood kids, me included. The bullet passed clean through Bino’s hip.

My mother called the police. Nothing came of it. Suing wasn’t an option — we just dealt with it the way families like ours dealt with most things: quietly and without much choice. Bino went to the vet, had surgery, and that was the end of the medical care. No follow-up visits. For the rest of his life, Bino got around on three legs — hopping through the same neighborhood he once owned — a survivor in the most unglamorous sense of the word.

Dogs in the 1960s

All of the childhood dogs were outside pets — no shots, no flea treatments, and certainly no spaying or neutering. They ate table scraps, and canned food only made an appearance when it was on sale. Teeth cleaning was unheard of, their real coats were their only clothing, and the bones they received were the genuine article — buried in the backyard just as nature intended. It was a simpler time, and the dogs lived accordingly.

The Newlywed Dogs

When Mike and I were newlyweds, two thoroughly useless dogs entered the picture — Ella and Oso. They were ridiculous from the start, and a no-pets clause in the rental agreement made the decision for us. Ella and Oso had to go.

Oso was rehomed with a hippie we worked with, which seemed like a fine arrangement for everyone — except Oso. He never forgave the betrayal. On the occasions we crossed paths again, he refused to acknowledge me. Not a glance, not a wag. Just a cold, dignified silence that only a dog who felt wronged could pull off.

Solo

Solo was a cocker spaniel with a sweet disposition and a serious abandonment complex. He was, without apology, a big crybaby — prone to howling at lengths that tested everyone’s patience. A specialist was consulted. The trainer’s advice: put coins in an empty can and throw it out the window when the crying starts. It was tried. It did not work.

Solo

As Solo aged, a new problem emerged — a body odor so profound that proximity became difficult for anyone in the room. A tile man installing new kitchen flooring lasted only so long before politely requesting that Solo be moved to the garage so he could finish the job. Eventually, the situation demanded a special diet just to manage the stench. And as if that weren’t enough, Solo was a flea magnet — regular treatments notwithstanding, the fleas claimed him as their own.

In his final season, Solo went both blind and deaf, which introduced an entirely new set of complications —  the pool. From somewhere in the house, my son Mikos would holler from his room, “Solo fell in the pool!” — and that was the signal to drop everything and run. It happened often enough to become routine. The repeated falls led to chronic ear infections, and in the end, Solo was laid to rest by Deanna, our babysitter.

Reisa Ciriza

Reisa Ciriza

Reisa Ciriza was a golden retriever with a singular life ambition: chase balls and swim. Of all the dogs, she was the finest in temperament.

Once, overcome with grief and distress, I opened the door and let Reisa inside — and she gently licked away my tears. It was as if God Himself had sent her to bring me peace.

Reisa’s end, fittingly, came by way of her greatest joy — my nieces threw the tennis ball one too many times, and Reisa, ever faithful to the game, simply couldn’t stop until she couldn’t go on.

Big Mel

Big Mel

Big Mel arrived as a gift from a neighbor — a massive golden retriever with what could only be described as a narcissism problem. He knocked over small children intentionally, had burned through three families, and was facing the end of the line. We took him in as his last chance.

True to form, Big Mel proved to be a Houdini. Every trash day, he engineered an escape and made his rounds through the neighborhood, toppling bins with what appeared to be genuine satisfaction. He was too much to handle, and eventually made the move to Santa Barbara with Mikos — and that is where everything changed.

The two became inseparable. While Mikos attended classes, Big Mel worked the beach, and before long the entire community knew him, police included. Mikos still tells the story of a patrol car pulling up, the officer opening the back door, and Big Mel jumping out as if the ride had been perfectly ordinary. He let himself into the house using his nose. He lived on his own terms, right up until the end. We were all there the day he went to dog heaven. Mikos took his collar and buried it at Ledbetter Beach.

Shadrach Angelico Ciriza

Shadrach Angelico, the Swimmer

The last dog was Shadrach Angelico Ciriza — and he arrived with a full name that suited his outsized personality. He suffered from what could generously be called ADD, ADHD, and general chaos. The dining table was chewed. The kitchen door was chewed. Several backyard hoses met the same fate. The telephone repairman’s equipment did not survive contact with Shadrach. He escaped regularly, and on one memorable occasion broke into a neighbor’s house and ate their dinner.

But summer was his season. He swam daily, and laps were done together — Shadrach always winning. In his later years, he could no longer pull himself out of the pool without help. His back deteriorated, and the end came quietly. His last day was spent beneath the St. Francis water fountain in the backyard. It was a peaceful exit — St. Francis calling him gently home.

Maddie with our grand dogs Rosie and Paco

Dog Free

The decision was eventually made to go dog-free. Travel made it practical, and the years of chewed furniture, pool rescues, and escaped artists had earned some peace. Now there are two grand-dogs who visit when their families come. Paco devotes himself to barking at airplanes, lizards, and anything that dares to make a sound. Rosie is a sweet, mild-mannered golden who is thoroughly convinced she is a lap dog — and unlike her ancestors, she wants nothing to do with the pool.

Precious Rosie
Sonja and Raymond, me with Riesa and Mikos and Big Mel

My Prayer

Dear Lord, Thank You for the gift of the animals You have placed in our lives. You created them in Your wisdom and goodness, and entrusted them to our care as stewards of Your creation.

May we never take them for granted, never cause them needless suffering, and always remember that in caring for them, we honor You, their Maker and ours.

We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.




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The Eucharistic Adoration Miracle

Diann and the restored Mother Mary statue

Late August 2005

The largest and third-strongest hurricane in American history made landfall on the Gulf Coast. Hurricane Katrina arrived with 175-mile-per-hour winds, a 20-foot storm surge, and destruction spread across 90,000 square miles. By the time she made landfall, her winds had weakened to 125 miles per hour. The death toll reached 1,836. Louisiana bore the worst of it. Mississippi lost 238.

Diann, her daughter Tayler, and their dog Angel made it out. This is their story.

 

Before Katrina
After Katrina
Damage, and clean-up
The mold throughout Diann home

Diann

Diann’s home was completely destroyed — submerged under nine and a half feet of water. The water stayed in her house for over three weeks.

For those first three weeks, Diann, her daughter Tayler, and their dog Angel evacuated to Alabama to stay with family. From there they made their way to Santa Fe, New Mexico, moving in with her Nanaine — French for “godmother.” Santa Fe became home for the next nine months.

Diann made two trips back to New Orleans to handle personal business. She needed to apply for a federal grant to rebuild and fill out the paperwork for a FEMA trailer. Once she got clearance, they moved back. The trailer sat in her driveway while the house was restored.

 

Diann restoration of the Crucifix

 

The Holy Encounter

Diann, a single mother, was devastated — so devastated that all she had left was prayer. She visited the Eucharistic Adoration chapel at her local parish regularly. The chapel had sustained significant water damage from Hurricane Katrina, and as a result, the paint was scaling off the statue of Mary.

After Katrina, Diann returned to the chapel for private prayer. She had been sitting and praying for about fifteen minutes when she looked up at the statue of Mary and, with tears in her eyes, cried out, “I’m lost. I don’t know what to do. I need help!”

Suddenly, she heard a distinct, soft voice say, “Make me pretty again.”

Diann looked around the chapel to find where the voice was coming from, but she was completely alone. Just as she began to wonder whether she was losing her mind, the soft voice repeated, “Make me pretty again.”

“Mother Mary,” Diann whispered, “are you speaking to me?”

A third time, she heard it: “Make me pretty again.” (1 Samuel 3, John 20)

She prayed quietly, “Mother Mary, I truly don’t know what to do. What would you like me to do?”

Then she heard a single word — repeated three times: “Michael. Michael. Michael.”

She remained in the chapel a few more minutes, sitting with the mystery of what she had received. She knew this had been a holy encounter, something that had lifted her into a new spiritual awareness. Yet she left with a heavy heart, unable to understand what the name Michael meant.

She turned it over and over in her mind — Michael, Michael, Michael — until suddenly, a revelation broke through: Three Michaels. Oh! Michaels — the craft store!

Without wasting a moment, she drove straight there. She found an employee and asked where she could find supplies for painting religious statues. For eight dollars, Diann walked out with everything she needed.

Special Permission

Diann knew she needed special permission to carry out this commission from God. She contacted the president of the men’s group at the parish for guidance. His first question was direct: “Have you ever painted before?”

“No, sir,” she answered honestly.

He told her he would need to check with the pastor first. By the providence of God, permission was granted. Diann had no idea what she was up against — but she was obedient to the words spoken to her.

Doing Work Unto the Lord

The statue of Mary was moved to a back room, and Diann got to work — talking to Mary, as she always does. When she finished, she stepped back and considered the cloak. The original color was slate gray, and something about it felt too dark. Then she heard it: “Blue.”

“Oh, I can do blue highlights!” she responded.

She completed the work through much prayer. From there, she moved on to the crucifix — touching up and repainting Jesus’ legs, chest, and Crown of Thorns, then adding gold highlights to His hair.

 

Catholic Charities to the rescue

The Blessing

Diann had already been taken advantage of by two unscrupulous out-of-town contractors, losing $14,000 by trusting strangers with her property. Then, within a week of completing the repainting of Mary and the crucifix, she was approved for a $150,000 grant through the Road Home program — established by President Bush to help those devastated by Hurricane Katrina rebuild their lives. The grant she received was the largest amount available. Not everyone was so fortunate.

Catholic Charities

Through Catholic Charities, volunteers from Kansas City and California came to her rescue. These generous souls removed all the mold and stripped the house down to its original studs — her beloved New Orleans Colonial Cottage reduced to bare bones. The work took three days. But Diann’s beautiful 100-year-old floors had warped severely, and it took her a full year to find an honest contractor. By then, the floors had dried out on their own — and the original one-and-a-half-inch antique heart pine floors were saved. One more blessing added to the rest.

Giving Back

Overwhelmed with gratitude, Diann wanted to give back. She began driving through her neighborhood, seeking out damaged religious statues in need of care. Working from the table in her FEMA trailer, she lovingly restored them one by one. To date, she has restored more than 100 statues — each one offered freely as a gift to the homeowner.

Eucharistic Adoration

At the Last Supper Jesus instituted the Eucharist as His body and blood.

19 Then he took a loaf of bread, and when he had given thanks, he broke it and gave it to them, saying, “This is my body, which is given for you. Do this in remembrance of me.” 20 And he did the same with the cup after supper, saying, “This cup that is poured out for you is the new covenant in my blood.

Catholics practice Eucharistic Adoration to draw closer to Jesus. And where Jesus is, Mary is never far — for it was from her that our Lord received His flesh. Conceived by the Holy Spirit, Jesus took His human nature entirely from Mary, and in His outward appearance, He bore her likeness.

Mary was immaculately conceived — preserved from all stain of original sin from the first moment of her existence — because she was divinely chosen to be the Mother of God. She has been fittingly compared to the Ark of the Covenant: just as the Ark carried the presence of God, Mary carried God Himself within her womb.

Eucharistic Adoration draws us into that same mystery. In the silence before the Blessed Sacrament, the Lord reaches out to us — not through words, but through presence. The fruit of that encounter is peace, and something deeper still: we begin, slowly, to become more like Him.

A Prayer Before the Blessed Sacrament

Dear Lord, may we all learn to adore You. Allow us to hear Your still, small voice. May we be obedient to the gentle promptings of Your most precious Mother, Mary. Amen.

The Eucharistic Adoration Chapel, the water level was inches from the feet of Jesus

 

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The Lopez Gathering


 We meet again.

The Decision

To be perfectly honest, attending the reunion was never really on my radar. The reason? Unresolved tensions between me and my younger sister. Our hearts were still wounded, and we both needed more time to work through our differences.

The Funeral

When I heard my sister would be at Tia Maria’s funeral, I felt a little apprehensive. Not knowing what to expect, I prayed a rosary on the way to the service. But the moment our eyes met, we both just knew — everything was settled. We embraced, and just like that, the Enemy’s plans crumbled.

My beautiful nieces, Lee, Nadia, me, Maya and Reina
Bella, Eli, Maggie, me, Norma Jacob and Mario
Baby Gabriel, Maggie, Bella, Reina, Maya, Nadia, me, Mike, Norma, Mario and Gabriel

The Reunion

After speaking with several cousins, their case for the reunion started making a lot more sense. Mike and I talked it over and made the decision to go.

Mary, me and Gina
Nellie, Norma and me

Cousin Nellie

Growing up, I was always the odd one out. My siblings each had cousins their age — but not me. The younger cousins thought I was too old, and the older ones thought I was too young. My cousin Ricky was my age, but he’s a boy. So for my entire life, Nellie has been my younger sister Norma’s best friend — and whenever we’re all together, I’m treated like chopped liver.

Nellie and I are cut from the same cloth. We’re both leaders, and we’re always not so quietly competing for Norma’s affection. Norma, for her part, absolutely relishes every bit of the attention. So when the three of us get together, it turns into a hilarious performance — the child in each of us rising right to the surface.

Organizing the Event

The Lord gave Nellie special graces to pull off this event. From the draped chairs tied with yellow bows to the dinner itself, every detail was arranged with genuine love. The planning even included a beautiful ancestry board and a display honoring the family members no longer with us.

The Opening Prayer

We are a God-fearing family, and inviting the Lord to bless our reunion was the only way to properly start the celebration. With God in our midst, we all know and feel His love. Thank you, cousin Eric, for the wonderful prayer. When we pray, the peace of God surrounds us.

There is nothing more festive than the sound of a Mariachi band playing “El Son de la Negra.” That tune never fails to remind me of our upbringing. Our mothers loved Mariachi music, and as much as I hate to admit it, they brought a special joy to every celebration. I still can’t believe Nellie pulled off hiring the Mariachis — how she managed to secure the extra funding for such a large group was truly impressive.

The Mariachi
Brother George and my niece Gina
Brother Mike and Angie

My Brothers

I thank the Lord for my brothers. What joy it was to see George, Mike, and their families. My brothers are always a source of great wisdom and advice for our family. But the best surprise of all was getting to visit with my sister-in-law Angie — it had been years since we last saw each other.

Leah, Roxie, and Maggita

The Sorta Karaoke

Nellie had a not-so-brilliant idea: lip sync to The Supremes’ “Stop! In the Name of Love.” I was immediately in, and so was Norma — though we had to do a little convincing to get the other Nellie on board. If it hasn’t been mentioned, there are five cousins named Nellie, all named after our grandmother Manuela — Nellie for short. There was just one big problem: we all thought we knew the song, but in reality, we only knew the chorus. It was a disaster before we even got started. We did our best and saved face by getting very animated whenever the chorus came around.

The Vasquez Family
Cecilia’s Family

The Dance Contest

We had a dance contest to Chubby Checker’s “The Twist.” At one time in my life I could really shake a leg, and “The Twist” was a no-brainer. I carefully selected Nellie’s daughter Maggita as my partner for two reasons: she is a great dancer, and her mother happened to be the main judge. Something very unusual happened to me that night — my upper body was twisting, but my feet were cemented to the dance floor. We were quickly eliminated, but whether from disbelief or sheer confidence that we were the champions, we refused to leave the dance floor. We quickly declared ourselves the winners.

Saint Francis of Assisi

Mass

The following morning, Mike and I attended Mass at Saint Francis of Assisi in La Quinta. This beautiful church is designed to mirror the Basilica of Saint Francis of Assisi in Italy and is stunningly set against the majestic Santa Rosa Mountains.

Nellie, Norma, me and Bella

Breakfast

A large group of us — as many as 40 — gathered for breakfast. Nellie instructed us to keep tabs on our own meals and pay our share when the check arrived. Our share, tip included, came to a little over $60 for just the two of us. As we finished our meals, the Lord placed it on my brother Eric’s heart to pick up the entire tab. What a blessing for us all. Eric is my half-brother — he and his family live in Washington State.

Gloria, my brother Eric, Little Roxie, Roxie and Maggita
Mike heading the coup

President for Life

It has been official for years now — I am the President of the Lopez Family. So what if it is a self-appointed office; I have humbly accepted the role. At every gathering there is always a coup, my husband Mike included, attempting to take over my position — but in the end… I will always be the President for Life!

My Prayer

Dear Lord, thank You for the legacy of the Lopez family. May You continue to guide us on the path You have chosen for us. May we always seek Your holy face. Amen.

 

 

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