Grow Old Graciously


My advice to seniors: you can reap the benefits of aging by keeping active and serving God.

Babysit Your Grandchildren

According to data over a 20-year period by the Berlin Aging Study, researchers discovered that grandparents who babysat had a 37% lower mortality rate than those of the same age who did not. They lived an average of five years longer than those who did not babysit. Since 2003 I have had the privilege of babysitting our grandchildren. The dread of hearing,  “Do you want to play Candyland?” or “Can you color with me?” These questions were part of our daily activity. Watching television shows like Dora the Explorer and Jessie was my life. Playing the part of Jaws, I  swam in the pool with my grandkids and when I caught them, I’d gently bite them. We raced laps in the pool until they blew me out of the water. They were getting stronger, while I was getting weaker.

The Fall

One day, came when I was chasing after my grandkids on skate boards, I took a terrible fall. After that fall I realized that chasing anything was out of  my league.  I was pretty shaken up from the incident and thought a neurological problem caused the fall. I made an appointment with a neurologist who wanted to put me on some medication that might alter my emotional state of mind. No thank you! My mind is already highly stimulated by my real thoughts; putting something like that into my body would only add to the overload. After switching neurologists I was diagnosed with tremors, so I am now taking a mild medication to alleviate the problem.

Exercise

During COVID I got back into a workout routine; walking became my saving grace. I’ve always exercised but it was never a constant. So instead of 10,000 steps a day on the FitBit, I’ve increased it to 12,000. Being a lifelong member of the “exercise hating club,” I’d self-talk my way into working out. It took a while for this to become a habit. Mike, for as long as I’ve known him has always worked out regularly, he rarely misses a day.

If I can stay healthy it lessens the burden on others to care for me. I want to be independent as long as God allows.

Stay Focused On God

When doing godly deeds, He makes time for all of our personal needs. Nothing is put off because you are given special, supernatural graces and energy to finish all your daily tasks. The only difference is that at the end of the day, because of my age, I tire more easily.

I want nothing more than to please God, but every single day I fall short. God knows my shortcomings and the struggles I have in life; this is the main reason I attend daily Mass. It honestly gives me a clean slate. Prayer is a major part of my life but I, like many, get caught up with Social Media. It’s shameful to admit but this is one of my worst vices.

Pray For Others

Part of the calling that the Lord has given me is praying for others. My list is long but throughout the day, the faces of those I pray for flash before me. Or if I’m out and about and see someone who resembles  a person on my list, I say a quick prayer for that person. God is consistently reminding me to pray.

Don’t Let Old Age Restrict Your Decisions

When my mother was in her early eighties she needed a new refrigerator. She was hesitant to purchase the appliance because she felt that she would not get much use of it because she was too old. My siblings and I talked her into buying a new one. As she got older she was hesitant to purchase bananas because she thought they would ripen too soon.

We recently invested in a new dishwasher and the realization of the possibility that this could be the last time we purchase one was surreal. We are definitely preparing to make our life more comfortable as we get older. The thought of death at the door may be something others worry about, but we place our trust in the Lord.

Trust God

Trusting God for everything in my life may sound odd but it does wonders. The Lord has supplied every need in every area of our lives. Whenever I have doubts and slip into a state of unbelief, I resort to a simple “Hail Mary” prayer to bring me back to reality. Many times, because of my impatience, God is teaching me to rely on and trust Him. Impatience has caused me heartache by making hasty decisions and regretting the choices I have made. Obviously patience is a virtue that I struggle with.

Article 7 The Virtues (from the Catechism of the Catholic Church)

THE VIRTUES

1803 “Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”62 A virtue is an habitual and firm disposition to do the good. It allows the person not only to perform good acts, but to give the best of himself. the virtuous person tends toward the good with all his sensory and spiritual powers; he pursues the good and chooses it in concrete actions.

The goal of a virtuous life is to become like God.63

Philippians 4:8; it has been my favorite verse and I try to live by its example. Always look for God’s truth in every situation, it’s the honorable thing to do. The rest comes naturally. God wants us to display these virtues in our everyday lives. As we mature, we should become wiser in the wisdom of God. You can’t grow in the Lord on your own; everyone must have a spiritual covering, an accountability to be certain you’re on the right path. After all, our end journey should always be toward heaven.

My Prayer

Dear Heavenly Father, Thank You for allowing me to serve You. Make me a better servant and if I become  idle, correct me in the way I should go. Use me to my full capacity to lead others to You. Lord, I pray for all seniors to look to You for guidance in their lives and for those who have lost their way, may they seek You, Amen.

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Steadfast Marriages

Me, Mike, Larry, Jim, Nancy, Helen and Sarah (Sarah and Jason have been married for 21 years)

This past weekend Mike and I went on a short trip with our best friends. We met with another couple, and we all shared a wonderful time together. Between the three couples we have 146 years of marriage.

Nancy, Helen and me

Mike and I will be celebrating our 53rd wedding anniversary in January. Our marriage, like all marriages, has endured storms. We made it through all the choppy waters because we understood that everything in life passes through a period of testing,  It’s how we choose to move forward that makes all the difference. Using the metaphor of weather, and how it changes, is a perfect way to describe a marriage. We know that all storms pass through, some are much more destructive than others. I believe that most marriages that are going through troubled waters can be saved.

Saving A Troubled Marriage

If you have been blessed with children, they must be a major part of healing the marriage. You cannot be selfish in a decision that affects others. Consider the consequences before making a life-changing choice. It all starts with God, and we know that He hates divorce.

And that is exactly what needs to be done. Three small words, “I am sorry.”

I Am Sorry

These words are part of my vocabulary. Even when I know that I am right about a situation and there is no way to convince the other party, I apologize for the sake of peace. Believe me when I say letting go of something hurtful takes time. But if you don’t nip it in the bud,  these emotions can pile up within you until they rule over you and convince your mind that you have  been wronged. A marriage should never reach this type of tension. Forgiveness should always rule our hearts.

Forgive

Why must we always forgive? Forgiveness builds character and develops special graces in us. We can move freely to get past any transgressions brought on by others. There is power in forgiveness.

Therapy

We were not born with immediate solutions to all of our problems. Each and every day offers us another opportunity for growth. We all want the right answers, but to some the repetitive wrong reactions give the impression that you are right when in reality God is attempting to teach you a life lesson. When our children were in the teenage years I had to seek outside counsel. The therapy helped me understand that my parenting needed more assurance. Both Mike and I worked at making sure that we were doing our best in raising our children.

I also discovered through therapy that inner healing was part of God’s plan.  In order for me to become a better parent, I needed to learn to love myself. That terminology “love yourself” was unheard of in my Hispanic culture. Though it took some time, God was teaching me all along that my inadequate feelings  of  self-love were part of the problem in my parenting as well as my marriage. We all want to be blessed with a happy marriage, but it could take a lifetime of lessons to achieve.

Mr. J’s Helen, Jason, Sarah, me and Mike

Good Friends And Family

I only have a handful of good friends, and I cherish these relationships because they have taught me to become a better person. This last trip was wonderful because we all had a common ground of enduring marriages and we love the Lord. We all have grown children and grandchildren and love to share photos and stories of our families.

We met in Nashville to celebrate the opening of Larry and Helen’s son Jason’s restaurant. Jason and his wife Sarah, along with their three daughters, moved to the south two years ago, and they are both working hard to make their business succeed. Mr. J’s is quaint, impeccably clean and the food was wonderful!

Party buses
Nashville

Nashville

We were in Nashville in 2018, and I do not remember this city being so crowded with so many party people. It seemed that this is the place to go to when having a bachelorette party. With so many busy Honky Tonk bars, it was difficult to choose which one to experience the music. We finally walked into Nudies. This establishment houses three stories of millions of dollars of country music memorabilia. It also has three stages and Nashville’s longest bar, 100 feet. We stayed to enjoy a few songs; maybe now I will develop a greater appreciation of country music.

Nudies, Nashville’s longest bar
Nudies memorabilia

The Food

Yes, the food was great but so was the company. When we break bread with friends, the memories are more special. We all ate so much barbecue: ribs, pulled pork and tri-tip, along with all the sides. We came back home with a few extra layers wrapped around our waistlines.

Sunday

In order to avoid committing a mortal sin, I found a Catholic church not far from where we were staying. What a wonderful surprise to see so many families attending the 11 o’clock service. As we were leaving I spoke to the deacon. He shared with me that he was from Orange and attended Orange High School in my home town.

Me and Deacon Tim from The Church of there Nativity
Helen, me Nancy and Sarah

My Prayer

Dear Lord, Thank You for Godly friends. I pray that we all remain dependent on Your guidance in our lives. Help us to become better parents, grandparents and friends. As we grow older give us favor with a healthy lifestyle. Bless our marriages and keep all evil from us and our families. Amen.

 

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Surf Trip Supply

Larry and me

Larry Jr. (IV) was 14 years old when he founded Surf Trip Supply, his  clothing brand.

COVID

In the idleness of COVID, Surf Trip was born. With mandatory shut downs of all beaches in California, Larry imagined what he would take on a surf trip. He started sketching T-Shirts; he did this for four months. With all the sketches he looked for a screen printing company to produce his T-Shirts. Using $150 of his own money after many attempts Larry found a company that would work with him.

Surf Trip was written on his first sketch, and that is how the name of his company came about. His first order consisted of ten T-Shirts. At $30 a piece they were quickly sold to friends and family. For two years the business was stagnant, but he continued to make products. The discovery of Tik Tok catapulted Surf Trip and gave his product a larger platform.

Tik Tok

Larry quickly mastered the use of Tik Tok to promote his product line. Posting seven Tik Tok’s daily finally got him the recognition he was waiting for. He went viral. In 2023 he understood what “viral product” meant. People would instantly purchase a product that had not been made or seen before, so his first drop of 50 pink corduroy baseball caps sold out in 45 seconds! This gave the young entrepreneur more incentive to do everything bigger at a higher scale. He repeated the process in a larger volume.   http://Surftripsupply.com

Larry modeling Surf Trip baseball cap and hoodie
Surf Trip mobile unit

With the growth of Surf Trip Larry hired four persons to help run ads on Instagram and FaceBook. Almost all of his drops have sold out. His father Larry helps with the packaging of orders and the logistics of customer service, while his mother Chantal answers all the direct messaging for Surf Trip. His father also runs a family-owned business as well.

His Birth

Our families have been friends for more than 30 years. When  Chantal, Larry Jr.’s mom, was expecting her first child I had a vivid dream about her pregnancy. In the dream I had a vision of a light-skinned, blond haired, blue-eyed boy. When the baby was born she was totally opposite from my dream. Larry (his father) and Chantal’s daughter Sophia was born with dark brown eyes with  hair to match. Though I shared the dream with Chantal before the birth of Sophia, it never left her mind. Two years later their son Larry Jr. was born exactly as I envisioned in my dream, light-skinned, blond hair with blue eyes. His genes are from both his maternal and paternal grandparents.

The Family: Larry, Larry Jr., Chantal and Sophia

Family

Larry Jr. comes from a large extended family with a colorful bloodline. His maternal grandmother, Pamela, was born in Ireland and his grandfather Mustafa was born in Egypt, while his father’s family are Mexican-American. I know for a fact how his parents and grandparents pray for him and how he has brought them great joy.

I have known Larry his entire life. There is something unique about his family; they are surrounded by love. When you have the love element in your life, it builds confidence. But what I have witnessed in this young man more than anything else is the love he has for Christ. Prioritizing Christ in your life makes all the difference because when you master this at such a young age. Wisdom is bestowed upon you. Truly it is a gift from God.

Faith Based

Though his family is Catholic, Larry’s education was Protestant-based. He attended a Christian elementary school and graduated from Orange Lutheran High School.

Larry pitched the Surf Trip product  line to the surf coaches at his high school alma mater, Orange Lutheran, and got the bid to supply the team with jackets, shirts and hoodies.

Larry is now a freshman at Pepperdine University in Malibu, California. On Sundays he attends Vintage Church Malibu and on Wednesdays he is worshiping God with his fellow Pepperdine students at the “Well” held on campus grounds.

Prayer is an intricate part of Larry’s  business. He prays before he designs, posts and drops new merchandise. Prayer has helped him develop into a social influencer. He witnesses his love for Christ by including John 16:33 on all his clothing tags. On the label of the product description you will find the inscription: “Jesus loves you.”

Journey Home

I have mentioned in several of my Blogs how the Lord allowed me to take different paths to find my way back into the Catholic Church. Always having  the desire to grow and to understand God at a deeper level, I learned to love the Word of God through my journey as a Protestant. The fifteen years away from my true calling as a Catholic have brought me to respect others on their journey. The Lord had such loving patience with me in my immature plight to convert the world into whatever I was believing in at that period of my life. Now looking back on this journey, I can see the fruit of my wayward adventure because it was a sincere effort as a babe in Christ. I say “babe” because I rarely attended Catholic Mass. As much as I wanted my two closest friends to convert, they were the ones who gently pulled me back into the Catholic Church. One of them, Helen, is Larry Jr.’s grandmother. My husband Mike and I are Larry (his grandfather) and Helen’s  dear friends. I mention this because we are connected in this vast family of God.

My Prayer

Dear Lord, I pray for Larry Jr. and his company Surf Trip Supply that You would continue to give him wisdom in every area of his life. May all of our youth be drawn to serve You. Bless the future generations with Godly boldness. Allow them to become Your gentle voice in a world filled with perversion. Lead them, Lord, to speak truth and to walk humbly in the path You have provided for them. Amen.

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